1. What are the greatest challenges in being a working mother?
I don't get to be with my kids 24/7 even though I work from home. A lot of people think that just people you work from home you have time to be with your kids. That's not true. You have to treat your work hours just as if you were in the office. I get to see my kids whenever I take morning and lunch breaks, and then after work. The upside is that I don't have to fight a commute of 1hr. + each day in order to see my kids.
2. What is your personal top tip to making it work - or what should you really avoid as a pitfall?
I was not much of a planner before having kids. The blessing of having twins is that they taught me how to be organised both professionally and personally. I try to plan ahead to avoid any conflicts. I try to do a lot of shopping online so that I can spend that time with my kids and husband. Both my husband and I agree that there are certain household chores (i.e. house cleaning) that we can outsource so that we can spend our energy on our family and other things.
I have an extremely supportive system from family and friends, and mostly, from my husband. I came to the realisation that I'm not a Superwoman and can't do it all. I accept and welcome any help that I can get to care for my kids.
3. What do you love most about being a working mother?
I think I will die if I don't work. I love my job and the mental challenges that come with. As much as I would love to spend a little more time with my kids I wouldn't give up working. I need mental stimulation from other adults other than my kids to keep me sane.
4. Describe your perfect day...
Ahh…my perfect day, yes! I get to sleep in till 9am and my kids won't wake up until 9:30. We have our breakfast then have playtime. My kids nap for 3 to 4 hours after lunch. During this time, I can have my 'me time' and just chill. The kids go to bed by 9pm after dinner and my hubby and I can have our couple time J
5. When in doubt, what is your killer confidence outfit or beauty trick?
I love wearing my skinny jeans with my heels, black blazer and t-shirt underneath, and finish the look with a statement necklace.
Anything else that you would like to talk about to Mama and More readers?
I love helping other women to look beautiful and be more confident. When you feel beautiful and confident you can do anything! I was recently asked by a colleague how do I know that this (my husband) is the one. My simple answer was if this person brings out the best in you then you know he/she is the one. We probably argued 3 times within the span of 6 years that we've been together. We both are respectful of each other and handle constructive criticism well. We have a similar upbringing so our values and goals are the same. We both are financially stable and have travelled the world. To have kids at this age (40s) is a blessing because we can now focus on the kids instead of longing to see the world or focus on our careers.
My advice to the single ladies out there is that enjoy being with yourself, travel the world if you can, and then settle down if you want to. Don't rush into a relationship/marriage because you're at a certain age or because of peer pressure. When my grandmother was still alive she would always advise her kids and grandkids to be financially independent and have a sense of self worth.
Janise also blogs over at Mamainheels.com, and you can also find her on Twitter @Mamainheels
Cupcakes or Cocktails? Hands down cupcakes!!!
Handbags or Shoes? It used to be handbags but I'm now obsessed with shoes!
Kindle or Paperback? As much as I love my ipad mini, I love the feel of paperback and flipping through the pages. So, I guess the answer is paperback.